I was wondering about parenting the other day. I thought about how parents were sometimes blamed when the children grow up to be criminals and when a person is like Einstein, people do not think of the mother or father at all. That being a genius was in him and not nurtured.
Note to parents: Stop trying so hard!
According to an article I read,
“Parents just don’t seem to be one of the major reasons why children turn out the way they do,” Caplan says.
So, that is a motivation for me to enjoy being a parent and not to stress too much on being a “tiger mom”. Or sometimes I mutate into a monster mommy, which I really hate. Especially the mommy guilt I feel afterwards.
I also read a message from a mommy club online where I am a member, that children must be loved as God loves them. That’s how I must love them, despite the chaos in the house they cause, or the spilled jello. It was really food for thought. Constantly, I remind myself to “choose my battles.”
One of the most annoying things my 3-year-old daughter asks me when I tell her to do something she wants to wriggle out of is, “But, how?”
I realize that that is a question I often ask God. I want to know and follow God’s will, and when He shows me at times, I ask, “But, how?” I wonder if He gets annoyed with me, too. God seemed to be speaking to me this past Holy Week. “How could you know My will when you don’t read My Word regularly?” It makes sense and the answers I know I can find in the Bible.
Am I doubting Him? Maybe.
Am I being passive? I think so.
Am I a lazy Christian? Surely! Not?
James 2:18 “But someone will say, “You have faith; I have deeds.” Show me your faith without deeds, and I will show you my faith by my deeds.” James 2:20 “You foolish person, do you want evidence that faith without deeds is useless ?” James 2:26 “As the body without the spirit is dead, so faith without deeds is dead.”
Ouch! I am deemed a foolish person.
When God says,”Do this. Walk this way. Make this decision. Tell them this. Pray now.”, do I respond, “But, how?” Do I run away like Jonah?
I guess this is where trust and faith come in. I must trust in His wisdom and have faith He will carry me through anything.
Yesterday started with a visit to the laboratory where I had my blood drawn for my thyroid test. I stopped by a bakery to buy breakfast since I fasted for the test, but I realized I shouldn’t have. Oh well! At least I had the appetite for some yummy egg pie, which costs 20Php for a big slice.
Rix was told by his friend that there’s a shoe sale going on in Tektite, so he decided he wanted to buy a pair for biking. We had lunch first at Shakey’s then proceeded to find a slot in the almost full parking area.
The event was called Markdown Madness, the brands on sale were Merrell, Skechers, Ecko Unltd., No Fear, Pony, & Zoo York, with up to 70% off. I also saw clothes and some swimwear for sale, too. It was real madness with so many customers, but I am happy with the coordinators’ foresight for they placed many attendants who were right there to assist and without having to be called numerous times. Usually I am turned off by crazy sales like that, but this one left me satisfied and not too tired like I expected.
I am also happy with my purchases. The Skechers natural/tan colored Cassie with embroidered design went from 3,195Php to 1,275Php. The BC Footwear navy blue with white piping and button Cotillion style went from 3,695Php to only 999Php in the low price section with shoes mostly for the ladies. I find these two pairs so cute! I can’t wait to wear them.
Before going home for dinner, we bought my birthday cake, Mocha Choco Crumble from Red Ribbon. There was no more singing of the Birthday Song because Rix, Elle and I had our haircut at home after dinner.
And that’s how my 30th birthday went. It’s not that exciting but it’s worth remembering. The shoe shopping was a definite plus! Hehehe!
Note: The sale runs until the 15th, from 9:00 am until 8:00 pm.
Planning my wedding was one of the happiest moments in my life. Although it was a bit stressful and confusing (we didn’t have a wedding planner), I loved how it made Rix and I closer. I really felt we were partners and that we were doing this as a project together, like in school. It was exciting! We were like building a big puzzle and that we were seeing the picture come together gradually.
If I were to have the chance to marry Rix again, I will and I would love to plan our wedding again. I would love to try a different theme this time.
I saw a nice website regarding wedding color schemes and it was very inspiring that I want to try all of them! Here is a screen cap I got from iStockphoto.
I hope I discovered this blog when I was going to get married in the year 2006, weddingbellsblog.com. There are lots of ideas for that perfect wedding gown. And it also has a trove of other bridal essentials leading to the big day like makeup, caterers, bridesmaid dresses, etc.
Bloomingdale’s has a wedding lookbook that made me want to get married one more time.
Why am I suddenly talking about weddings? A sudden nostalgic surge, maybe?
“Another one?”, she asked me with a little impish smile.
“No!”, I answered with finality, “Two is enough.”
It appears I ate my words. Until I had a TVS or transvaginal ultrasound, I am in a state of denial even if I tested positive in a pregnancy test kit. ‘It’s too soon!’, I heard my thoughts say, ‘Why, Lord?’ Ricky and I weren’t planning on having another child. Well, we weren’t actually planning since he didn’t want me to use contraceptive pills for some reason. And since he is my only “source of income”, he didn’t approve of a budget for that. I am not completely blaming him for I was not very insistent about it when I should have been. It was, after all, my reproductive health at stake.
Isaiah 55:8 “For my thoughts are not your thoughts, neither are your ways my ways,” declares the Lord. Jeremiah 29:11 “For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.”
I can feel God saying to me that my plans are not His plans. Until now, I don’t understand. I can’t see the reason behind having another child. I am still confused. I am sure He knows how hard it is to bear a baby while having small children, how hard it is to deliver that baby and this would be my third C-section and my fourth Epidural, how hard it is for me to produce breast milk that would make the baby healthy, how hard it is when the kids get sick, how hard it is to raise children emotionally & financially, and how crazy it is to be a parent. But they say, God wouldn’t give me something I couldn’t handle. I hope they’re right!
I’m sorry if I’m so negative about this. It’s just that it’s unexpected, I’m unprepared.
The doctor who did the TVS on me was laughing at me because I was in denial. She said that other women were crying because they had a hard time conceiving. Meanwhile, I was so fertile and was given another blessing. Yes, I know that I can’t deny this gift from the Lord. I cannot deny that I’m infanthreecipating.
My husband isn’t a very romantic, lovey-dovey kind of guy. But, he is sweet in his own way. And, I am sure that he loves me. One of the ways he shows his affection is through food. It may be the way to my heart, after all.
He went biking one time and he, along with his companions, had breakfast somewhere. He raved about the coconut shake served in that food place. So, one day, when he went on the same trail and had breakfast at the same eatery, he thought of me and brought home a cup of coconut shake for me to try.
Another time he went out, I forgot where and for what reason. I was craving for some pearl shake that day. Before he came home, he stopped by Ersao and bought one for each of us.
And then there were the cakes that are not only fattening to the waistline, but fattening to the heart (in Filipino: nakakataba ng puso meaning it’s heart-warming or makes the heart swell with pride.)
Aside from the yummy food he buys for me, or the meals we share when we dine out, he shows thoughtfulness by helping me with work at home. I love that he takes care of the kids, teaches me to cook and do some household chores if I ask him to.
So, last Valentine’s day, we didn’t have a fancy dinner to celebrate. Cheesy as it may sound, it should be Valentine’s day every day. For me, it’s the little thoughtful things we do for our partners or loved ones each day that truly make them special.
This year, I kind of dread the month of April. Why? Well, that’s when I turn 30. Oh my gosh! Where has the time gone?
There are so, so many beauty products out there that are targeted to women like me. Anti-aging creams and age-defying soaps abound. Do they really work?
One sign of aging is the loss of elasticity in one’s skin, hence the wrinkles and the sagging arms. I try to counter this using body butter from Human Nature, a brand of hair and skin care products I endorse. Hehe! I also know that exercise and drinking lots of water help the skin maintain a youthful glow. I hope I do these more often.
The conductress of a 300-voice choir I joined in high school said that good posture: keeping the back straight, makes a person look younger.
Another proof that I’m aging is weaker immune system. I get sick easily these days. I am not a fan of taking vitamins, but I need to be especially when my kids get sick and I have to take care of them. The sleepless nights and hours of worrying do take a toll on my body. I get tired easily and want to surrender sometimes. But I know that apart from the vitamin C, it is really the Lord who’s sustaining me each day.
Yet another way how my body is saying that I’m getting old is the magnified pain when I hit something or when I acquired a wound somehow. One time I fell on my knees on our tiled floor and goodness, gracious! I can’t tell you how much pain I was in. It was almost unbearable! I thought my kneecaps got dislocated. Good thing my baby boy’s smile eased the pain.
These are the physical signs of aging based on my experiences as an almost 30-year-old. As a woman, looking older than your age is being frowned upon by society. People sure does look at the outward appearance, but not God. For Him, a woman’s beauty comes from within. Armed with the Lord’s love, wisdom and joy, youthful charm shall naturally follow. A smile not only brightens the features or the countenance, it also brightens someone’s day or a person’s outlook in life.