It’s Not Fair by Melanie Dale, Cymplified!

“It’s not fair!”

It’s been whined countless times by children. Grown-ups are more careful saying this in order for them to seem mature. But, deep down inside, all of us have a desire to scream it out when unfortunate things happen to us. Usually, we scream it at God.

“God, why is her husband sweeter? It’s not fair!”
“God, why don’t I have a lovely home? It’s not fair!”
“God, why are my dreams not coming true? It’s not fair!”

It’s Not Fair  by Melanie Dale promised to be a friend, a companion for difficult times. It delivered by not judging and having a disclaimer for everything. It made me snort in an attempt to laugh silently. If I laugh loudly, my kids would come up to me to ask, “What’s funny?” Then, I would need to give an explanation, which might be long. It wouldn’t have a conclusion because I’d lose my train of thought. The children would nod in obvious confusion.

Reading the stories and about the situations featured in the book, I would say I’ve got good things going on. I am grateful. The book inspired me to be honest with God; about my feelings and thoughts. It also suggested some things to try when coping with sorrow and unfairness. Additionally, one of the important things I could do to help myself.

So, here I am, trying to love the life I didn’t choose, to be a better daughter of God and in the roles He gave me. I would recommend this book to women, especially mothers, who want to broaden their perspectives.

Tell me, how do you love the life you didn’t choose?

Note: I was provided with a free copy by BookLook in exchange for an honest review. All opinions expressed are my own.

It's Not Fair: Learning to Love the Life You Didn't Choose Book Cover It's Not Fair: Learning to Love the Life You Didn't Choose
Melanie Dale
Christian Self-Help

Hey, you. Are you debating whether to destroy something with your bare hands or curl up on the couch for a decade or two?

This book will solve all of your problems. (Sheesh, that’s aiming a bit high.)

This book is a cup of hot coffee, a ginormous bar of chocolate, or the magical fairy that comes over and does your dishes while you lie in the fetal position clutching a fluffy pillow.

Sometimes when life falls apart the only acceptable response is hysterical laughter. When things get so far gone, so spectacularly a world away from any plans you made or dreams you dreamed, you feel it bubbling up inside of you and you scream, “It’s not fair!” And it isn’t. Fair is an illusion, and life is weird.

This book will help you laugh at life’s absurd backhands. This book is an empathetic groan of our collective unfairnesses. You might want to throw it across the room, and you might want to hug it like your new best friend. This book is about us sitting down together in our shared mess, taking a deep breath, gripping hands, looking the hard stuff in its beady little eyeballs, and bahahahaaing at it.

Life’s not fair, but we can learn to love this life we didn’t choose.

About ceemee

I'm a blessed child of God, a wife and a mother to three. I love reading, writing, and creating poems that rhyme. I also draw my thoughts down on paper with glee. I learn, laugh, sing and play with my kids most of the time.

58 thoughts on “It’s Not Fair by Melanie Dale, Cymplified!

  1. We didn’t choose life, but God choose our life. If what we have now it’s because it was God who planned it and designed it for us long time ago. God’s plan for us is the best. Sometimes there’s a lot of question that comes into our mind sometimes we don’t understand why it’s happening but in the right time we just realize that everything has a purpose and ma appreciate natin. This is really a nice read sis.

  2. Most of the time, it is really difficult to love something we did not choose but I guess the key is to always be grateful and thankful for everything that comes our way, good or bad.

    This looks like a very interesting read. Hopefully, I’d get a copy one of these days

  3. I feel disappointed and sad knowing that others could have what I can’t have. But I also learned of my lessons and learn to accept that truth. I also learned not to compare and just be happy and contented on what we could have. This is a nice way to remind us again to be thankful of what we have and aim for our wishes and wants in a nice way.
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  4. I’ve heard so much things about this book and finally, a real and honest review about this. Plus nakakatuwa nagrereview ka talaga!!! I should try this out too.

  5. Very interesting! Yup we are like that. We get bratty and whine at times for getting a life we didn’t not want, and have we not all gotten what we have not bargained for? hahaha. I’ll look this book up. Thanks for the recommendation.

  6. Many would find this book interesting. Personally, I have always felt blesssed and content with all the love I get from family especially my husband. His adoration for me has not wavered all these 23 years being together.

  7. I’m guilty that sometimes I forget to appreciate life as it is. But come to think of it, just by having all these things around us make us truly blessed. This is a good read! I’ve been looking for inspirational books to read and I will add this to my list! 😉

  8. Oh wow. I would love to have a copy of this book right now! Although I know I should be thankful for what I have, there are still times when I struggle. Having a companion during those times would be a huge help!

  9. My mother always told me, the only difference between a good day and a bad day is your attitude. So for your question, loving something something you did not choose always starts with acceptance 🙂

  10. “How do I love the life I didn’t choose?” YOU- really got me here! Honestly, there’s been a struggle going on inside of me about life- some say our life is base on our choices while others believe that life is predestined. So there you go, I am in between these 2 thoughts. It’s just regretful to realize one day that time just passed by so quickly and this is one truth in my life that I am trying to absorb. So for now I try to live to the fullest and experience new things while I am still breathing. Did I answer your hanging question? Nah..I really can’t.

    1. It’s difficult to answer it, right? It’s where we find ourselves hanging between the present and the future. In limbo between enjoying life and doing what is needed for the future.

  11. my life is unfair, but i always know that every thing happen for a reason and God alone has its explanation.
    I cry to release my pain and lift my head and smile
    always saying that ” all in God’s time”

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